Stewards of Influence

Who had an impact on your life?

Think of the names of people who had an impact on your life.
Reflect on different seasons of life—as a child, teenager, emerging adult, and maturing adult…

  • I have looked up to these individuals: __________
  • I have been invested in by these individuals: __________


Another way to think about this is to clarify the types of influencers that we have:

MENTORS

: a trusted counselor or guide.
(Merriam-Webster)

“Mentoring is doing what needs to get done.” 
(Bill W – mentor at Bloomingdale Church)

Biblical examples:

  • Jethro mentored Moses on organizational leadership principles >> Moses mentored Joshua
  • Eli (priest) mentored Samuel on how to listen to God and lead His people >> Samuel mentored David
  • Jesus mentored His disciples by showing them how to live this new Kingdom life

MODELS

: someone or something set before one for guidance.

Biblical language: “setting an example”

  • “Follow my example as I follow the example of Christ.”—1 Corinthians 11:1
  • “Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice.”—Philippians 4:9
  • “Set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity.”—1 Timothy 4:12
  • “In everything set them an example by doing what is good.”—Titus 2:7

TRUSTED ADULTS/ADULT ADVOCATES

: someone who the children and young people may turn to for help and will take them seriously.

Who are Trusted Adults?*

  • Parents/primary caregivers 
  • Teachers or other school staff
  • Mentors assigned as part of a mentoring program
  • Non-parental adults including grandparents, sports coaches, workplace mentors, youth workers, or other community adults

*Source: “The greatest potential benefits of a trusted adult role emerge where there exists a high-quality youth–adult relationship.”

Showing Up

1. God communicates His presence throughout the Bible:

  • “…the LORD was with Joseph.”—Genesis 39:23
  • “The Lord replied, ‘My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.’”—Exodus 33:14
  • “Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”—Joshua 1:9
  • “’I am with you and will save you,’ declares the LORD.”—Jeremiah 30:11
  • [Jesus said,] “And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”—Matthew 28:20

2. We can reflect God’s character and modeling by showing up for others

3. The mindset of showing up is choosing to live for others:

  • “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.”—1 John 3:16
  • “In humility, consider others better than yourselves.”—Philippians 2:3

4. Listening actively

  • “Be quick to listen and slow to speak.”—James 1:19

5. Choosing empathy

  • “Rejoice with those who rejoice, mourn with those who mourn.”—Romans 12:15

Living Out

⇲ Who has influenced your life without words?

⇲ What did you model with your actions today?

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”—Deuteronomy 6:5-7

How are we to “impress them on our children?”
Consider this…

In the Old Testament, God’s design of a weekly Sabbath and special festivals were given as opportunities for families to gather together and pass on their faith to their children. For example, at the Passover festival, children were likely to ask questions about what the rituals meant and parents were able to explain how they pointed to God’s redemptive work in leading Israel out of Egypt. Similarly, God commanded Joshua to place twelve memorials stones near the Jordan River to mark the passing into the land of Canaan, which was to prompt children in future generations to ask about what God had done. 

1. We become whatever we set our hearts or affections on
(Model Christ)

  • “And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.”—Hebrews 12:1-2

2. Starts with who we are:

  • Who am I?
  • How are they seeing me?
  • What am I reflecting?
  • Who am I showing them?
  • What am I mentoring my mentee to become?

3. Model integrity

  • “A righteous man keeps his oath, even when it hurts.”—Psalms 15:4
  • “Let your yes be yes and your no be no.”—Matthew 5:37

4. Model authenticity

Speaking In

1. The Blessing

  • In the Old Testament, calling out abilities is referred to as “the blessing.” The blessing says, “I believe in you.”
  • In the New Testament, God blessed Jesus publicly saying, “This is my Son, whom I love, with Him I am well pleased.”—Matthew 3:17

2. Look for the unique and God-given gifts and talents in others and speak in

  • “You’re good at that.”
  • “I believe in you.”

“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing, and perfect will.

Romans 12:1-2

Opportunities to Steward Your Influence at Bloomingdale Church

1. Connect with the NextGen (age 0-18)

NextGen Volunteers are safe people who love Jesus and enjoy spending time investing in children or teens
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2. The Discipleship Initiative

Pairing adults and teens in intentional discipleship relationships
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3. The Mentoring Project

Inspiring men and women to become relational mentors to local youth
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