Bloomingdale Church is committed to marriage as a sacred institution, ordained by God, between a man and woman
The Bible (Matthew 5 & 19) teaches that marriage is a lifelong commitment that should be entered into with deliberation and unhurried preparation. Bloomingdale Church strives to help couples build strong marriages based on the Bible’s practical teachings.
Bloomingdale Church does not charge fees to couples who want to get married
We want to help and encourage them in this joyful time in their lives and not add a burden to this once-in-a-lifetime joy. At Bloomingdale Church:
- Officiating Pastor – Free
- Use of Sanctuary – Free
- Use of reception area – Free
- Use of church decorations – Free
- Premarital preparation classes – Free
All couples who get married at Bloomingdale Church are required to fulfill the following premarital requirements:
- Meet with one of our pastoral staff to discern whether Bloomingdale Church can host the wedding.
- Fully complete ONE of the following tracks:
- Attend seven weeks of Alpha Marriage Course (preferred)
On these seven sessions, you are seated at your own table for two. Each session consists of food and drink, a practical talk, and a time for private discussion. Couples often find friendship with other couples attending the course. The couple will also meet at least twice with the pastor officiating the ceremony.
- Attend seven weeks of Alpha Marriage Course (preferred)
- DVD track
Watch six premarital DVD’s and meet with the pastoral staff or assigned mentor-couple six times, following these steps:
- Watch the Marriage 101 series as a couple together, filling in the blanks in the workbook. Participant can utilize the Bloomingdale Church’s code to get the discounted online vidoes and PDF study guide. The code is “5QL5S” at Marriage 101online.com
- Call to make an appointment with the pastor (630) 894-0090 for each session after the couple has completed the video lesson.
- Meet with the officiating pastor at least twice before the wedding for premarital counseling, in addition to the initial introduction session.
- Church membership is not required.
- All of the premarital requirements must be completed at least two weeks before the wedding.
- The church performs weddings for divorced persons when there is Scriptural basis to permit it.
- The pastors of the church will not perform the wedding if the couple does not meet all of the qualifications listed above.
The Wedding Ceremony
- The facility is to be reserved in advance. Please contact church office (630) 894-0090 or email@example.com. You will be asked to make a commitment to premarital preparation to secure the reserved date.
- Saturday weddings must be scheduled in the morning or early afternoon. All pictures in the sanctuary must be completed by 3:30PM.
- Sunday weddings may begin after 2PM.
- Friday or weekday weddings normally can be at any time.
- The church expects the wedding party to treat the facility with respect and care.
- Inform florists, musicians, and photographers that the church office is open Monday-Friday 9AM-4PM & Saturday 7-10AM in order to see the sanctuary or make deliveries.
- A center runner (if used) should be at least 100 feet in length. Do not use real rose petals as they stain the carpet.
Music and Sound
- The couple is responsible to make their own arrangements with the musicians of their choice. There is a piano and keyboard available in the sanctuary.
- If using instruments, music, or if the guest list is over 100 in attendance, the couple is responsible to engage an official Sound Team member. (Please plan for a $75 honorarium.)
- A complete rehearsal on the day before the wedding and with all of the wedding party attending is required.
- No children may be left unattended in any area of the church during the rehearsal or the wedding.
- On the wedding day, the church is unlocked and available for pictures up to one hour before the ceremony.
- The wedding party should dress before they arrive at the church.
- There is a closed area (south lobby) that serves as a waiting area for the bride’s party before the ceremony. The men wait in the front of the sanctuary or in the north stairwell near their entry door to the sanctuary.
- Please arrange for a host(ess) to greet guests, and remove wedding items (candles, bows, rose petals, runner, etc.) after the wedding.
- If the couple utilizes a wedding coordinator, he/she assures that musicians and ushers are in place and the wedding party is lined up and ready to enter on time.
Elements of Ceremony
The elements of the wedding ceremony include the traditional wedding vows and a short personalized promise. The ceremony generally takes about 30 minutes. Other elements that the couple want to include will be considered. Below is the basic order of service.
- Seating mothers/lighting candles
- The mothers light the outer unity candles together if using the unity candle
- The runner (if used) is pulled
- Standing when the bride enters
- The bride and groom should plot out in advance the anticipated standing positions of the bridal party at the ceremony
- Please be seated. We welcome you to their sacred wedding ceremony. You may be a close family member, a distant relative, a life long friend or a new friend, but today you are welcome family. We have gathered together today to witness the public ceremony of joining in Holy Matrimony. This covenant of marriage was established by God. The Scripture commends that it is to be respected and honored among all people. Therefore is not to be entered into unadvisedly or light, but in reverence to God.
DECLARATIONS OF CONSENT
- Bride/Groom: Do you desire to make the lifelong covenant promise of marriage this day?
- Parents: Do you hereby release the responsibility of your son into the loving care of Bride/Groom who will be his wife, confidant and loving life partner as long as they both shall live? (“Yes, we do.”)
- To Father of the Bride: Who gives this woman to be married to this man? (The father kisses the bride, takes her hand and places it in the groom’s hand.)
- The couple should choose a friend(s) or family members and also choose the Scriptures to read. The couple can seek the pastor’s input if they would like help choosing the Scriptures.
THE VOWS(Repeated phrase by phrase after the pastor)
PERSONAL VOWSThis is several heartfelt sentences that the groom & bride compose and repeat from a written card. (Bring these promises printed legibly on a card to the rehearsal.)
EXCHANGE OF RINGS
UNITY CANDLE (OR ALTERNATIVE) AND SONG